Afraid of the dark PART 3

[Davide]

Ste7e,

Good to hear from you. I am sorry that you don't have a happier update, but it certainly sounds like you are taking it better than you were a month ago. Of course your W is working through her own issues. But, like you said, you have to let that go.

I am a little confused by what you say about your conversation. You say it was all positive and you gave her everything she wanted but she was adversarial, resentful, and irritated. But you also seemed to pursue her - talking about going out to eat and telling her ILY. Don't you think that is what she was reacting to, the pressure? Just from what you describe it sounds like you were not very emotionally detached. Both of us need to work on dropping the rope more and focusing on ourselves.

I hear you with the haircut! I got one at the start of the trip, much shorter than I wanted so that my widows peak was showing much more than normal. My dad has been bald all my life, and I have always prided myself on my full head of hair, so it [censored].

Don't worry about saving the marriage. Worry about saving yourself. You deserve someone who loves you and wants to be with you.