but I just know if it were me and I was even being considered, I would want to know ASAP, but then again, I'm a planner, so that is on me.
I'll replay to some of the other comments - especially your well thought ones Dawn - but I almost made a post on another thread how much of the advice here is based on what the poster would want or would do - not necessarily what might be the best thing to do. In fact, I started to put together a post where someone said "I think I would want" and "If it were me" and "I don't like it when". There were well over a dozen "I" statements in this person's reply to the OP. I was going to quote them and then say "I, I, I, I, I - it's NOT ABOUT YOU!!!!!!" But I thought that was too mean and snarky even for me. I'm sure we are all guilty of it - including me. I just always at least try to consider what I've read or what experts suggest, what best practices are, etc. rather than what I would want or what I would do - because heck just because I would like it or do it doesn't mean it's the best way to handle it. Hard as it is, I always try to put myself in the other person's shoes and figure out what is best for THEIR situation rather than what might be best for me.
Very smart and sharp of you to point this out Dawn, and sort of tee it up for me. That said, you made some great points, many of which I agree with, and I'll try to comment on them here soon.
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