Need advice on detaching- Part 2

[kiro]

What I see is you trying to shame her. It's not your job. You can't shame her into being a good mother. She doesn't have to live her life according to your values.

Sandi, this is your opinion, but I don't agree with you. I am doing what I think is best for my children. You seem to be saying that "being a good mother" is something relative to one's values. I don't agree with that. If we are debating whether "being a good mother" is right or wrong, then we're not going to get anywhere.

If she feels shame in what I told her because I asked her to take care of her kids and spend time with them after not seeing them for over a month, then that's her problem. I only asked her to do what I think is right for the kids.