Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts 3

[reframe]

It's been awhile.

I've since filed for the D. Had a brief (around 1 month) very short lived stint dating another woman, and watched the WW cycle back and forth.

She's always trying to make me her best friend, and I kept repeating that I was not interested in that as long as OM was in the picture. I've been doing OK, and moving on with my life. Not sure I WANT the soon to be ex wife in my life most of the time, but we did spend a decade together, and I am open to it if she is able to grow up.

Last Thursday she asked me to talk to me "about life and us".
She told me that she deeply regretted how she handled things, that she realized that she wasn't seeing clearly when she did, and that she wanted to date me, to go to MC and to have a life with me.

I was cautious and guarded, but said that if she was willing to terminate the relationship with OM, we could go to therapy. She sent me some deeply touching stuff she wrote about how much she messed up and how much she missed me.

We talked again Saturday, and she said that while she broke up with him, she was still going away for four days with him and another man. She also didn't think we should be exclusive, and just wanted to casually date "until we could see if we were going to move forward with it".


In short, as soon as I agreed to that we could work on things (not that we'd get back together mind you, that we'd work on things) she pulled back and was once again unwilling to make any concessions. More of the "me me me".
I spoke to her briefly Sunday morning and indicated that I was not comfortable with her continued relationship with the OM.

I also came across her looking for a life partner on a dating site yesterday, so clearly her commitment to working things out is HUGE.

I can't shake the feeling that this is just one big temp check... and I got taken again. Emotionally I'm back to obsessing over this, when I thought I was almost over it.