Im just wondering if she is going to use my birthday as a Hoover Trigger / Attempt.

I think the Limerence is nearing its end.
The mystery and allure of the affair is wearing off. My family has seen OM, met him (i havent)

There is no secret, no drama or suspense.
Now the return to normal, mundane life will set in.
The shine will fade, and its All Matching up with the same timeframes i experienced with WIFE.

12-18 months of Limerance. (OM is at about 15 months right now)
Next will be a year or less of "Normal Relationship" (this is when she started talking to her EX when she was with me, also when she got pregnant and didnt tell me)
Then the Devalue and Discard.

But here I am trying to mind read again. Stupid Me.

M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds