WAH has been shopping for furniture, toys for kids and lot of things for his new apartment. The boxes are all over the place. it is hard to not ache and be angry at the same time. He managed to have minor arguments with me yesterday about trivial things and commented I am not co-operating with him about kids even. I admit I have been a little cold and curt with responses really hard to not be with his bachelor pad set up actions Yesterday I informed him I was taking D3 out in the morning to a birthday party and he would have to keep the baby. H- I have already told you I am going to xxx why didnt you tell me you had these plans yesterday. I - I wasnt aware you are planning to go out at the same time, the party is at xxx so baby cannot go but if you insist I will take both of them H - You always do this, just be back early. I am not asking you because I want to know where you are going or what your plans are, just because we need to sort these things out.
I know he is trying to argue about things to justify his actions. He relentlessly messages the mediator to make sure things are getting done fast and he cc's me on these convos for my benefit. His only goal in life right now is to get out of the MR and put me in as much mental turmoil as possible.
Keeps saying we are S or D, I want to scream and say no we are not, you are walking out on me, leaving the MR but I just bite my tongue. It would feel so good to point this out to him though.
Time to change my IC I guess, he is trying to tell me I have to find peace and know that H is in way more pain and emotional turmoil than I am, how is that benefitting me?
My GAL is limited and is mostly with kids, I have detached a little bit better, I know his move still bothers me, as I see it he has emotionally left the MR, he is physically doing it and has started the legal proceedings too. Any other advice for me?
Should I buy him a house warming gift? A thorny cactus perhaps
