TJT, I had the same in my sitch. His initial business trips after BD I behaved how I did before BD and he responded same way. He Would message me when he landed, I asked him (multiple times yikes) how his day was and everything else as if it would be before BD. 3 months post BD when things just kept getting worse he went on a trip and didnt tell me he landed or initiate any convo. I was completely NC for the few days he was away. Did this help me I dont know, we are close to D and my letting him just be has not shown any results for me so far. But I am taking advice here as a newbie, my original behavior is what got me here so my only hope is if I 180 and listen to what people say here, it should be better than what it would be otherwise. To put it simply just act as if you are already S or D, behave how it would be at that point in time until you actually detach. That does not mean you will be mean but just that you are minding your own life and not worrying about his. - Arshi
