Thanks D......and you are right I am not a mean person. My father was a big guy 6'4 and 350 at his peak. I am going to try. I am not perfect by any means.....6'2 around 230 and while I don't expect perfection it would be nice to find someone who also enjoys going to the gym, working out, and trying to live a healthy lifestyle. It is not the only thing I am looking for but it is on my list. Obviously I want to be with someone who accepts my D's, they don't have to attend church but at minimum are a Christian and believe in god, down to earth is a big one for me, funny, smart, affectionate, someone I can be myself around, and also someone that wants to be in the weeds with me (having young kids more days are spent in the weeds than we will in Cancun). You get my point.
When I was initially going through my EW moving out and was really dealing with my emotions I had a lot of long talks with my neighbor. He would come over, bring a bottle of bourbon and I would just talk to him about my sitch. One night he told me that I was a good guy, better than him, and if he died he couldn't think of anyone other than me who he would want to be with his wife and take care of his girls (he has 3). I was like wow, what a compliment, and obviously that is how highly he thinks of me. So I think about that when I think about potentially being with this women (who is a widow with young kids).
Thank you!