Don't count her looking at being anything more than that. When she signs a lease and gets a moving truck, then cross that bridge.
It sounds like there are still doubts in her mind. She's just very overwhelmed right now and escape seems like the thing to do. Humans usually do behaviors that fall into one of four categories: self stimulation (I do it bc it feels good), escape (I do it to get out of something), attention (I do it so you'll look at me), or tangible (I do it bc you have something I want). Right now she's in escape mode. The way to decrease the need to escape is to decrease the demands. So back WAY off. No pressure on her at all. Leave her to make as many decisions as she can if they don't compromise your health or safety or your kids. Natural consequences will take over. Continue living your best life despite her wavering.
