Moving On To The Bright Side 2

[Dawn70]

You know, J, you have gotten some great advice and I TOTALLY second what Ginger said about expanding your horizons. I guess I see things from a totally different view than others on the board. I see kml, Lady V and even Ginger talking about their size/weight and they are all saying that even they wouldn't fit into your "definition" of what you find attractive. I certainly wouldn't because I'm 5'11" and weigh nearly 300 pounds. That is hard for me to type here, but it is what it is. I'm a big girl. You wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street, unless it was to make a rude comment (which I don't think you'd do, by the way, as you don't strike me as a mean boy, but you get my point..........).

The thing is we ALL have certain things we are attracted to. I've said this on here before. Many men tend to be attracted to more petite, fit, pretty women so those of us who don't have that struggle. I used to not think I had a type, but looking at those that I've been with and I'm attracted to, I definitely do. It is human nature. Maybe it is because I'm a big girl, but I tend to be attracted to tall, heavier guys (and with facial hair....OH MY!). Just my thing, like small, fit women is yours.

My point here is, don't let that one thing cloud you. I'm not saying you have to be into a girl my size, but be open to PERSONSALITY and attitude, even if the physical part is not exactly your type. You might find that a girl with just a little meat on her bones is the greatest thing since sliced bread. Like Don pointed out, as women get older, things change, so a girl who is super fit now, may begin to gain a little weight or lose a little muscle tone as age catches her. Personality, attitude....those things stay forever.

Good luck and enjoy this new lady. I think she sounds fabulous! But, I promise, if nothing comes of it, there are plenty more out there looking for a decent guy.