OK I understand where you are coming from.......it is a slow process but I would encourage you to take this time and invest in yourself. Get to the point to where you are just fine being alone and a complete person without anyone else in it then when you enter your next R you are doing so as a whole person not needing anything from your partner to complete you. If you take your time I can tell you from experience it is a very rewarding journey. Hang in there....better days are coming