Agree with joe joe and think you do too

So when she is nice and crying and holding your hand and sharing her feelings it is really hard to detach

But the advice I got here and had to keep remembering is

she dumped you as H and right now is OM s GF

Once my w broke up with her OM then I started listening to her again

This is extremely difficult

bro hugs for you

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving