You might find you like a little junk in the trunk!
You are putting too much pressure on this instant attraction and wanting to kiss the person on the first date.
Perhaps you are recognizing attraction comes from knowing the person. The chemistry can build as you get to know someone, just as it can decrease as you get to know someone. You can take the hottest chick on the block, see her on the firs date and want to jump her bones, then when you get to know her, you can be equally turned off. Works both ways.
I was like you. If I wasn't feeling this instant chemistry, I wrote them off. Then I realized how chemistry needs to be built by getting to know someone.
Also, check yourself and make sure you aren't feeling like you have to "catch up" to your exW. Yeah, she is in an R and is having sex everyday, but so what. That will happen for you when it is ready to.
