Introduction

[SteveLW]

Unfortunately, MWD's books are not available digitally. I agree that would make reading them so much easier. My suggestion would be to find it at the local library, check it out, then hide as well as you can. In my opinion it is better to read it and have him find it, than to not read it.

Stop going out to tell him you are going to bed. That is "initiating" even if you are not the one to hug, kiss and say ILY. When he leave in the morning, do not see him off. If he wants a hug, a kiss and to say ILY he'll come find you.

Detachment is almost impossible if you continue to act like you did prior to BD. This is the mistake almost all of us make, is that after BD we begin to even more to institute a goodbye or hello ritual. To be consistent with affection and ILYs. The problem is they work against you. Make HIM pursue you. Make HIM try to hold onto these rituals.

You might think "well he'll never do that!" At first maybe he won't, but as he starts to miss that then he may go to initiating it. So hang in there and be strong!