It is a challenge to build things with my limited schedule and no kids involved, so maybe, just maybe, right now, having someone to have some hot dates with and go really slow with (emotionally slow), IS what I need right now. Or what is meant to be in my life.
Just in case I wasn't clear, this ^^^^^ is exactly what I was trying to say. You do not at all have to wait until D10 is D18 for things to get easier, but you might be amazed at how much of a difference it will be when she is D14 or even D12 or 13. That just may be the same time HC needs. I don't even think it's near as much about him dating other women first, it's much more just about getting through the post D stuff. It just takes a few years to get back to normal again. It's a process. That's why many experts say not to date for at least 6 months - often a year post D. This ^^^^^^^ will also demonstrate whether slow and steady wins the race versus the previous instant connection instant R longer terms you had with FF and the guy previous who lived farther away from you. That's what I was trying to say - whether I'm right or wrong.
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DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
