quit worrying about every little thing your W and her parents are doing. You can't control any of it. Focus on what you can control.
Quit doing "family meals" with your W. She doesn't want a family with you, your family is you and the kids.
Your W is playing a ton of games, you need to stop. Rise above it. Be the calm one.
Your W won't realize she is wrong like you're hoping. You can't control this either.
Stop pursuing. What does your GAL look like? You don't have the kids much so you should be out and about.
When W left, I hadn't realised how serious it really was. In 25 years we had never split-up before. I had thought she would be willing to talk about our relationship and we could quickly get back together. I hadn't realised she had already been planning a divorce.
It was her idea to do some family days out together (yet she shouted at the kids that we are not a family anymore), and then just some meals out, and now the kids and I without her. We have been going to school events to support the kids.
From the start, I've not been calling or texting her except for a few important replies. Sometimes she has called if I've not replied. Before I found this forum I had been saying a few things in person about what went wrong etc.
Last week she offered to go and do a couple of things for me but I declined. I realise now that she had probably only offered because she wants the rest of her stuff from the house.
She paid some extra money into the joint account for house bills but I know she has been hiding a lot of her money (advance planning for D). W now knows that I worked out what she was doing, and why, and that she had been doing it before she left. I was really shocked that she had been planning D and yet sleeping with me.
I am doing walking, have lost a lot of weight very quickly with very healthy eating, much better haircut, better clothes etc. I did something in the media that I'd said I would achieve one day but W hadn't believed I'd do it. W has noticed a big change in me. I start counselling this week. I do need to make new friends and get out more.
