I am living in the family home where the children have lived all their lives (until W left with them 2 months ago), I have been their main carer, I work from home, my working hours revolved around the children, and W took the children without my consent.
In contrast, W has taken the kids away from their home, her job isn't very flexible, and she hasn't looked after them much or the home. She is now reliant upon her elderly parents for childcare etc.
I had to delay things as W tried to get me into trouble which could have made me look bad for childcare access and divorce. She has now failed in that attempt so I can now move forwards when I want. I am certain that her parents are the driving force behind what W is doing.
I live in the UK and the system for gaining childcare access is very slow. At the end of it, the penalties are tiny if a parent doesn't comply and you have to keep going back to court.
I met someone a few weeks ago. He had overheard me asking W for greater access to the children. Afterwards, he said he wouldn't have been that calm and cool speaking to W and said how I spoke to her was amazing. He said he has been going through the same issue and it has taken 4 years so far with little progress and it has cost him a fortune.
The best way to solve this problem is for W and I to get back together. If I don't agree to a D then it can take 5 years. If I stay in the family home then I might be able to stay in it for 10 years to provide the kids with somewhere to stay when with me.
I have been through 2 months of utter hell and it is tough to get through each day. The lovely W I knew is now awful. I hope that she will realise the wrong she has done and want to put it right but I don't think she will for a while because of pressure from her parents and she is so stubborn.
