It just makes me wonder if he stil has feelings. That is all. It seems when I try to close the door something always lets it open. Am I just over thinking it?
It just makes me wonder if he stil has feelings. That is all. It seems when I try to close the door something always lets it open. Am I just over thinking it?
He's trying to pull you back in. Not at all unusual, when you start DB'ing the WAS feels a loss of control and scrambles to get it back again. If you are receptive to it then he'll just shut down and push you away again once he's content that you are secured as Plan B. It is VERY important to stick to your DB'ing and not read anything into this.
I will try. I texted him and his sister that if they need any help with anything that I'm here. He responded that he is heartbroken and in shock. I did respond, but I will stop. I will chalk the hug and kissing up to the day being very emotional and that is it. Even though I feel that it was more, I'll get back on track to being no contact.
I am very concerned for his mother. I really feel that the prognosis will not be good. We have always been close. She loved me from the start. It is devestating to see. I'm not sure him or his siblings are aware of the journey that they are about to take.
So many thoughts running through my head this morning. His mother. Those kisses. Him. His family. It all makes me sad. I want to be there for support for all of them so bad but I feel out of place in a way.
I know I'm jumping the gun here, but if this situation is really that bad in a few months, not even really, his life will be very different. His mother has always been his go to when his life is too hard. His sister and brothers always say tat she babies him too much. I'm not sure what he will do if she was to pass. I obviously want him to come home. I'm worried for all of them.
Loves - he will do what he will do. What you need to do is focus on YOU! It will be a tough sitch but you need to focus on being the best you for you and your kids. I hope things turn out well for you.
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
I know. It's so hard though. I try to pull away, when I don't want to. But then when his mom reaches out it's very hard to not want to be involved. But I try to tell myself that he left. Which is equally as hard but I feel like he still loves me. I'm at a loss.
I broke the no contact rule yesterday. Given the situation I'm not feeling like it was a mistake. Both his mother and sister asked me to check in on him. I had doing pretty well on keeping my distance the two weeks prior so I don't think it will have too much of an effect. Anywhoo... I just checked in on him and he was at work. We texted back and forth a little bit and that was it.
I'll give it some space now, and get back to the distance.
Correct. Except I asked him to leave during pregnancy. I was crazy hormonal at the time and things got tense. He moved back when the baby was born but when things were a little hectic at 10 weeks, which was my fault, he left.
He is 27, me 37.
Yes, 4 kiddos, and I'm now back working full time.
