I must warn you ... you only seeing the children for a couple hours a week will not fair well for you in court if it goes that direction. I know it's hard to consider that at this point, but you must. If it takes six months or a year for her to file, that will be a long time for you to only have seen them for only a couple hours a week. There is a clear motive there. You need to change that quickly. In my opinion of course.
That is what I thought at first and W may have done too. The limited hours are not my choice.
However, W isn't capable of looking after the kids on her own for long due to her job and she really doesn't like housework, cooking etc. (I used to do nearly all of it). I know that W's parents get very tired doing childcare and are in their 70s. It is the school holidays soon so W's parents will be doing even more childcare for weeks.
It is W parents second home and would probably rather be at their main house a very long distance away. I doubt W and I would have split-up if their empty second home hadn't been very near to our family home. It was very easy for W to move-out rather than sort out any M issues.
I know that W's parents have encouraged her to leave me since we met 25 years ago, and are probably telling her what moves to make for a D. I think that is why W was hiding money in cash in their house in advance of a D whilst W and I were still together.
However, they might now also suspect that W might be having or had A. Also if W is having an A, she won't want her parents to know and so likely want her parents to move back out to their main house far away.
W last legal letter said that the limited access arrangements had gone well and that W would like to extend them. W is now starting to want my help more with childcare.
I think W wants her cake and eat it with me going back to doing a lot of the childcare revolving around her, then her parents will be off, and W will then have a lot of free time.
W left saying that she didn't respect me nor love me. I think she was resentful of me looking after the kids so much. She didn't value what I did. I think it would do her good if she tried it for a while. She might then regain some respect for me... or perhaps not.
