He is really bad. This is why you shouldnt date immediatly post divorce. I ignored red flags and went for someone not compatible based on my trauma and wish to avoid future trauma. I turned traiits that i saw in him as bad to good. And ignored some bad things that came up early. Like he made fun of the looks of someone that had posted to him on line. The way a teenager would. . But meanwhile his looks are certainly not going to result in women chasing after him. Demonstrates a huge lack of self awareness and meanness and immaturity.
I am glad this came up. I am also realizing, i dont really need to be in a relationship. I am going to put my energy else where right now. People suck.
When i do date again, i am goimg to have to be more discriminating. Less tolerant. Go with my gut. I also need to learn to acceot my own feelings insteqd of down playing them or questioning them. Trust in myself over a male.
Every guy i have ever dated has always had an arrogance about them. This extreme confidence, thats not always warranted. After a while, i see that and call them out on it or question it and then the relationship becomes combative
What types of guys do i go for at this point in my life? I thought a LBS that raised his kid was a smart choice for someone nice with good relationship skills. I thought a man that had a great education and a supportive family and good job would be a great dad and husband.
I recognize that people all have downsides. But the downsides i am describing are just not minor things too deal with. I am a tolerant person i think.
