So some advice W has developed new interests That are very different from my own I am fine with that Issue is she wants me to participate But I really have no interest Do I continue to politely decline Or join in to show I support her new interests
I used to joke that the three little words that "saved my marriage" were "Have Fun Dear".
For a while my ex did Warrior Dash. It was "her thing" and I wasn't allowed to participate but I did go out of my way to be there for the actual race, cheer, take pictures and congratulate her. I would then leave her to have fun with her friends. She really appreciated that.
I think that for a number of us here that we were / are married to people who are self-centred and rather controlling. So that means that they and their interests are central. If memory serves this describes your wife as well from what you've said in the past.
Personally I believe that a good relationship requires compromise and that sometimes means doing things that you might not be interested in. I spent a lot of time in craft stores and watching her clothes shop. She would occasionally go paddling with me and was patient(ish) with my own clothes shopping / browsing. Reciprocity wasn't much of a thing in my former marriage.
Not sure if that helped or not but if you do push her away, she may well go.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
