I size 8?! That's it? Ok, you are going to have to venture in the size 8 zone. Let's be real. The women on the market are women with busy lives, divorces, gave birth..... priorities shift a bit. Not that they let themselves, but it takes a lot to keep up tininess if it isn't in your genes. Your "type" is nearly extinct in your age range, and isn't going to get any better, and when it does, skin will hang. Your exW is pretty much a minority, and if she doesn't starve for it, well, she's got good genes and is super lucky. I work out hard (well, I did) just to maintain fit size 10. I would have to literally starve to get to a 6.
That being said, I have a small experiment for you. Some might think I'm nuts, but hear me out. Check out Ashley Graham, the sports illustrated swimsuit model. She is a 12/14 and insanely hot, and I, as a straight woman, would do her in a second. Then, watch some porn with curvy women. Like women with butts and boobs, and not a tight stomach. I am dead serious about this.
You can't leave your town?! You put that in your agreement? State or a mile radius makes sense, but you can't leave your town else you will give up your parental rights? That's a bit extreme. But if that's what it is, well, I am going to be brutally honest..... you need a teeny tiny woman, who lives very close and a deal breaker is she has to move in with you, who likes the good things in life, but doesn't put on weight?
You have narrowed your pool to about 5 women. You are going to have to be much more flexible. If you are looking for someone who fits perfectly into your box, well, maybe you aren't quite ready. And it's not fair to women. You need to be flexible, and maybe if that woman comes along, you might bend a bit. But you know a real relationship is one where you both bend a bit.
I understand that right now in your life (because I am dealing with a man in a very similar situation) it's really all about you and your kids. Adapting to your new life. Which means adapting someone else's is a real challenge right now.
If you are looking in the short term, maybe something not too serious, who meets your physical match.
I got wordy there, because I am having a hard time wording it correctly.
