Introduction

[SteveLW]

TJT, please read the detachment thread. Yes it's okay to reciprocate when he says ILY or hugs you. Just never initiate. GAL helps you detach. 180s make you the spouse only a fool would leave. See how it works?

You are still too focused on him. We've all been there. We focus on our WAS way more than we should be. Lots of WAS make their BD proclamation and then sit and do nothing about it. My W did that. In fact, looking backI almost think she did it to get me off her trail on her EA.

But as cdn2a said, focus on you. DETACH. And yes all of this is easier said than done but nothing worthwhile is easy.

And yes he's a WAS. TJT I'm detecting that you haven't read DB/DR. Please get a copy of DR and read it. A lot of this will clear up for you.