Your situation is different from mine but I do really admire your boundary-setting. Good for you. I'll try to follow your thread and hope to get more updates.
H:39 W:30 M:4 T:9
05/2018: H says "ILYBNILWY", BD 07/2018: Discovered A, confronted 09/2018: PA + other details emerge; H moved out 12/2018: I filed 03/2019: Divorce finalized
