Coming out of the Fog

[Sotto]

Hi Juju, it sounds as though you are clear in your mind what you want to do. And now it is just a case of finding the courage to do it. Me and the guy I had been seeing for a few months just broke up. We'd had a few tricky things to navigate and that hadn't been easy. I think we both came to see that we were on different pages in a number of areas and it did cause tension.

He became pretty distant and stopped investing. I was building up to asking him about what was happening. Then he said to me he wasn't sure whether he wanted us to carry on seeing each other. I thought about things and told him I thought we should stop seeing each other. And so we have. In truth, it wasn't easy and I have felt pretty raw. However, I hope we'll still be able to dance together in the same class and get along reasonably well - we'll see I guess.

I once read a little quote about doing or saying difficult things - ask yourself is it necessary, is it truthful and is it kind. I think if we can follow these guideposts as best we can - and we'll do an imperfect job for sure - we've handled things as gracefully as we're able.

It maybe time to stop questioning yourself and worrying about this and take the needed steps to end this relationship that is no longer bringing you joy. For me, I have been sad, but I also feel it was the right decision and I feel some relief too.

Xx