And still struggling 2

[Jim1234]

J - I know when my EW told me she was ready to move forward with D I initially felt that pit in my stomach but after a couple of days it felt like the clouds parted and the sun was shining. I don't know if you are ever ready but their is some relief especially if you have been in limbo for a long period of time such as ourselves.

The clouds haven't parted quite yet, but the forecast is good. I'm certainly better than I was a year ago, and now I can at least see the possibility of better days ahead.



There have been some strange goings on around here, and I was hoping for some thoughts from the community.....

My kids and I were on vacation at my parents' cabin. They came home a day or two before me. When I came home, my bed was not the same as I left it.... It's an adjustable bed, and the foot was raised slightly, the things that I decided not to take with me were still on the bed, but not quiiiiiite in the same place as where I left them, and the comforter was sideways.

I don't have a TV in my room anymore, so no one would be climbing into my bed to watch. Initially I thought, "WTF???? Is one of the kids (16 and 18) having sex in my bed?????" I texted W about it. She replied saying she talked to the kids and they don't know anything about it. Of course they would, so that went nowhere.

But when I pulled the covers back that night, an expensive family ring given to W and since returned by her was squarely in the center of the bed. She loved that ring. Someone had to rummage through my room to find it.

A few days later, I discovered a large egress window in our basement had been left wide open, for at least a week.

A few days later, I came home after being away overnight to find the desktop computer, that isn't used anymore, was on. Whoever had turned it on also shut it down, but they walked away before they realized the process hung up on open programs and it never shut down. The program left open was the address book that she had asked me if she could come over and copy. I said she could do it any time she wanted, but here was obvious proof that she came over when I was out and did it without asking, very sneakily.

Now I'm thinking the bed thing wasn't the kids at all, especially with the ring in the middle of the bed. But WTF????

I saw her Thursday at a swim meet. She sat with me the whole time, and it was nice, but I didn't mention any of this, and neither did she. I'm not obsessing over this, but I just think it's bizarre.

Any thoughts?