The other thing Sandi that i think about...what if this om is in a much better spot than me financially? I feel i sacrificed alot for my family and financially if was tough. Now the good news is that i have a lot of expedience in that field so i should be able to improve. Irreguardless if i eved decided to reconsile...im determined to make myself more appealing than this guy.
One thing I suggest that you do is stop comparing yourself to the OM. As hard a it may be, quit worrying about him and focus on yourself. And make your positive changes for yourself. Not to win your wife back or outshine the OM. Do it for yourself and be the best you can be. In the process, you might get a chance at reconciliation. If not, you will be in a much better place. For DBing to really work, you need to do it for you, no one else...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
