Is It Too Late?

[Gordie]

First no it is not too late

I have been at this for two years and am a better man and father for it

Your focus will be on self improvement for a while as you cannot work on the relationship when she is not invested in it as you saw in your counseling

Good job on your new look a good first step

Like many of us here we have seen and heard so many of the same the same words and behaviors and worse

Second women are logical but people in crisis are not

Your w is in crisis she has experienced deaths of loved ones and a miscarriage and has been involved in at least one EA but just be warned you usually only know a tiny fraction of what she has been hiding from you

Remember actions speak a lot louder than words

She signed a lease but has not moved out

She says ILYBNILWY but has not filed for d

You should see a lawyer to know your rights re custody and finances

Do not initiate that discussion but you should be prepared for it

Now tell us what are you doing to improve you as a man for yourself first and hopefully down the road for a new relationship