Thanks Blu! This is extremely helpful as you are speaking from the other end of the tunnel where we all want to me. As I have mentioned before, the board is full of WWs and WAWs but fewer WAHs. So as a LBwife it is sometimes hard to come by advice that could transcend gender. I hope at some point you get to read my sitch and guide me. I dont remember if you were actually D or just S before R, but I had a few questions - Other than missing the family and having the guilt about children, what brought him back? - What did he miss in you as a spouse/as a partner that gave him second thoughts? - I know you really need to drop the rope and move on, but what actually made him feel that you had moved on? No contact, LRT? - Did you have any family together time with children and H at all while separated or did you do your own things with the kids? - The biggest thing for the WAS to come back some day would be the guilt and fear of rejection by LBS, what do you think helped in your sitch? How was your behavior towards him that gave him the courage to even consider letting you know he wants to try R? Thank you for taking the time to guide us all who are still burning in these fires.
