I think it is AS and I have talked about the "edge of the bed hover" that WAWs are capable of. Where they are so far to the edge of the bed it is as if they are hovering over the floor.
Oh my. That is a thing? That is EXACTLY what she did. I just thought that's the way she slept. Now I think about it, she has probably been doing that for quite some time. Wow. That is a major revelation. Like a penny dropping. And my heart sinking....Ok, well now I know what to look for when the time comes. I think we are a long way off that though.
On the MBR, we won't have a choice but to sleep in the same bed next week on vacation. We'll see how that goes, and maybe when we get back I'll suggest she come back into our room. We aren't piecing yet, I can see that, but seems like she does need to be with me to give us a chance.
TBH, my head is spinning somewhat from all the things I personally need to work on. The more I think about what V said, the more I can see there is so much I should be doing and thinking about. I need to get these ordered in my mind somehow. And I am also reading NMMNG, which is also full of homework and exercises, although tbh, I'm not really convinced but much of what Dr Glover says. At its core, it's probably has some merit - I am definitely a very typical NG, and there are certainly things I could/should do differently, but the way the advice is conveyed is just so OTT. I think DB'ing first, self-development in parallel, and then thinking about get my old self back in that order.
Today I did have a bit of GAL. Went off to play cricket (a bit like baseball but less boring..!) - a work thing. Beers, BBQ and networking afterwards. Was fun. Not sure if the W appreciated me being out all day whilst she had the kids and their friends over to deal with - but she wanted her space so I gave it to her, and I GAL'ed. It should have been a win-win, but I can't help feeling it didn't come across that way to her. Anyway, I'll see how the weekend goes as we prep for the vacation.
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
