Husband left for the second time - 5

[LoneWlf]

Nicole, Kml, I going to give you my perspective. I consider myself average on the looks scale. When I am fit as I am now-0 I receive alot of compliments. Many people say I have an exotic look. I often get asked if I am anything from Indigenious, Hawaiian,South American to Asian because I am very tanned. It is very flattering especially now to get womans attention and nice compliments provide a small ego boost. From my own experiences I have dated women that were high maintenance. Although stunning on the outside were super shallow on the inside. My W is such a plain Jane. No make up- simple hairstyle (salt and pepper) and very little accessories. I truly fell in Love with her heart. Why I have become so heart broken is because I would have had the most beautiful love story for my future grand children of how Grandpa and Grandma met.
I serve at my church as an usher. I attended regularly - My W approached me and asked for my number. I thought nothing of it thinking friendship. It was around Christmas time. We had planned to meet on a first date at a mall as I was doing my shopping close to Christmas. This date never happened because while I was waiting on the 1st floor she was waiting on the second. She reached out to me again before Christmas when I found out she was to spend Christmas alone because she had to work and her family was 4 hours away. My mom taught me to always extend a hand of friendship to those in need. I invited her to my family Christmas party where my family warmly welcomed her. This is where I found out she was separated and worked at a group home for men with aquired brain injuries (from strokes to car accidents). Not thinking of relationships we began to hang out. She was alot different then my previous dates. More plain, quiet, introverted but with a strong faith. I played alot of sports basketball, volleyball and baseball and dated women from the coed league. My W was just plain. Anyways as we continued hanging out (dating) my dad at the time had his first stroke. After about 2 years of dating and my dad having 2nd stroke which left his whole left side immobile. My W looks to me and says " Let's move closer to your Dad your mom is getting old -I want to take care of him". It was at that exact moment I felt I needed to marry this woman. So my next birthday- having a strong friendship with the priest. I asked my priest if he would allow me into the empty church that nite for a birthday prayer with my at the time GF. We went to the alter said a prayer and then I took her to the spot where we met. Right by the stained glass window with Jesus and the inscription "Come Follow Me"- I bent down on one knee and asked W for my special bday present- I want you to be my Wife. She said yes and we started planning for marriage.We worked together to get her 1st marriage annulled and got the next available date to marry from our priest. I cannot script this any better. We got married - took a honeymoon Caribbean cruise and almost 9 months to the day-we were blessed with my S. I often call him my Caribbean honeymoon souveneir. Telling this story makes me both happy to share but sad that things have gone south.
My point here is I feel it is the looks that initially get us (men) . But it is the substance ( from within) that keep us. My own personal feelings is although attractiveness ranks high because men are mostly visual creatures. True beauty radiates from within. That is why I fell so hard from my W. And this is why with my recent interactions with her and her actions after BD why I fell alot less attracted to her. Anyways only my take ( sorry to hijack your thread).