Introduction

[TJT]

... you do it with everything in you--for YOU... i believe this will give you the best chance to save your M...

most LBS cannot do it... it is very difficult... i see that most LBS eventually get around to doing it, but not until it's a bit too late... at that point, they are basically saving themselves... if you can do this in the early stages, i believe your chances of saving your M are greater... and if you do it without regard to how your H reacts--because he will likely react, will not like it, will try to guilt you--you will have a greater chance of him coming back... it will feel very wrong, like you are making things worse--but he has to come to a place where he sees he has lost you... you cannot fake it...

Thank you artista... this makes sense and I've definitely started to take the mindset of not "reacting" to H, whether good or bad. I'm the only thing I can control after all, as hard as it is. Sometimes it really does feel like a game and I get resentful that I am having to GAL to a degree that I normally wouldn't - not because he would ever prevent me from it before (he has never been controlling or anything like that) but because I'm just more of an introvert and I truly don't care to go out all the time and see friends every day, etc. So even though GALing may be good for me in one sense, it still doesn't feel totally authentic either.