Can I really do this #4

[SteveLW]

Yep most all of us have been through it. The problem is that you are looking at only two possible futures, and there are three. You are looking at your future with her where nothing changes. No one wants that. You are looking at your futrue without her. Better than #1, but the LBS often struggles mightily with this idea. The third is, if you are patient and consistent, a new MR with her.

That's the goal you have to keep in your head. In fact, you shouldn't even entertain a future that looks like #1. You should be bracing yourself for a future that looks like #2. And you should be doing things that give you the best chance for a future that looks like #3.

Limbo is the gift of time. TIme allows you to be consistent in your GAL, 180s and detaching. IT could take your W days, weeks, months or even years to notice. But the only way she will notice is for you to be consistent with your DBing over time.

So don't look at it as "how much longer". Look at it is this is a journey on a path to a better future!