Arsh, I have a friend who's husband decided he wanted a divorce. He was like your husband when he announced it - cruel, mean, depressed, blaming, etc.. Then he moved to another country. She had to fly to his new country to sign the divorce papers and suddenly he was nice, relaxed, and happy again. He got the divorce he wanted so he had no more reason to be mean to her. That was five years ago. She moved on with someone new and he never found anyone. She wrote recently that he sent her a message asking when she's going to come visit him. It's hard to grasp these dynamics. How does he expect her to come visit after the hell he put her through!? I don't think we'll ever understand the minds of spouses who walk away suddenly without even trying to fix whatever's wrong. Anyway it seems you're nearing the end of your husband's terrible behavior. Hopefully he'll soon start to act more normal as he's already started doing. Time will tell if he realizes his mistake and will come back begging for another chance. I believe he will. It still doesn't seem it would have made a difference even if you found DB sooner. You've survived this ordeal up until now. It's great that you dressed nice at the mediation appointment! I'm not sure if I have any tips except it's a really strange feeling when your husband finally moves out. It will continue to feel like something is missing for a long time. It's been almost a year for me since my husband left and I'm still not used to it, so I guess you just need to know it's a long slow process to get through this but if you can become closer with other friends and family and feel more connected to many different people you'll offset the lonely feeling just a little.
