You may be sleeping in the same bed but it isn't a marital bed. So in some way that intimacy needs rebuilding otherwise what is the point? You aren't piecing yet and working on M.
Ok thanks, I think I just answered one of my own questions. We aren't piecing. We need to re-connect, in order to get intimacy back. Absolutely. That's my goal. It will take some time I know - it's been a very long time that she has felt the way she feels, and I've only just cottoned on to it, in relative terms. And she has chosen the lesser of two evils in wanting to try to rebuild, and yes, she is reluctant, making this all the more difficult and a challenge. But I have to try. I do love her, even if she doesn't feel the same, and that is what is driving me at the moment.
Thanks again for your guidance. I'm off to do some homework and set some self-development goals. And think about what I know about her. V - you've been very helpful. Thanks
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
