I'm going to keep this one short. She held hands with you all day, then went by the OM house. Do you think she went over there to hold hands with him?
She USED to try and clear up her guilt, find a way not to commit and keep you on her hook and all it took was her holding your hand. Stop going on rides with her, just ✋, step back and look at your Sitch objectively. You told her, "I cant discuss blah blah with you seeing if you are with the OM". Soon as she call, you drop your boundary. IMO, on this day, you were weak and unattractive. You are her PLANB
I know it's hard, but you are going to have to pull yourself out of this misery.
She has three choices:
A. Move on from you and stay with OM B. Move on from OM and stay with you C. Move on from both of you
At the moment all three options are to painful for her and she want her cake. But guess what, you control two options. B and C. Her worst nightmare at The moment is being left with on option. You control B & C!
And once you declare a boundary, you must stick to it. If not you lose all control.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
