I’ve quit the high stress job and am looking for something new. I have great confidence I will find something I enjoy that doesn’t try to kill me.
My Guy is still great. We hit a few bumps but have navigated those all right.
The kids are well. D15 (already!) has a job and is supposedly taking up cross country, though we’ll see if that lasts. S12 had a HORRIFIC first year of middle school, so my biggest project for the summer, besides finding a job, is helping him prepare for 7th grade so it goes more smoothly. I had the pleasure of having S10 to myself for the last four days, and he is so sweet and fun, I hope I get it again sometime soon. This coming week S10 and D15 will be at sleep away camp so I will have S12 to myself and I’m thinking of ways to make it as enjoyable as this week with S10 was.
Mr. Fantastic has changed from wanting something “more balanced” to wanting to be able to change the calendar so that he can spend one week a month with the kids, with both his weekends back to back, and then I get the kids the other three weeks, and he just visits them on Tuesdays if he’s in town. He wants to be able to go live with his parents in another state (for the whole week, with travel on the weekends on either side) if he chooses.
I am not in favor of this change and it clearly is very inconsiderate of me, but when he asked for this adjustment the last time and I said no, he completely blasted me as being unforgiving and obstructionist. He called me “The Parent of No.” I don’t like being put in the position of having to constantly say no to him and then take that kind of abuse. Now I’m going to have to do it again, only he’s upped the ante by saying his dad has visibly aged (so have my parents; our parents are the same age) and he wants to “repair his relationship” with them before it’s too late. Meanwhile, he’s leaving Monday for a two week trip to Ireland to go on a hike. While he’s gone, he will be out of contact with everyone, because where he’s going he’ll have limited power/cell service/ Wi-Fi access.
The five year anniversary of DDay #1 was this past Tuesday. I used that day to reflect on where I’ve come from and where I’m going and I noted that I’m really happy with the changes that have happened in my life. I still have a lot of concerns around the kids, money, my future, etc., but all in all I’m better off and much richer personally than I would have been if I’d stayed with Mr. Fantastic. I like who I am within my relationship with My Guy, and I have confidence that my kids are ok, and that their relationship with me is getting better everyday.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
