W rushing thru D, help

[hongaku]

Yes, the divorce will very possibly go through. Maybe even very likely. But that's the thing, divorce doesn't mean that you won't ever be able reconcile. It doesn't mean the "end" necessarily of anything but the MR as it was. Without kids, there is no reason for you to need to ever see each other; but again, it doesn't mean that all hope is lost forever. Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't. The hope part is up to you. Post-divorce reconciliations DO happen.

Your W initiated and moved through this whole process really ridiculously fast, in my opinion. Who knows how she'll feel about all of this a few months or a year or two from now? Maybe she'll reach out to you, maybe she won't. But you can't really be the one to reach out to her. You still need to make yourself the best Cory09 that you can possibly be, regardless of ANYTHING else. You can hold onto hope as long as you want to, while still moving forward with the rest of your life. She'll find her way back into it or not. You may find something amazing that isn't her when you're emotionally ready - you never know. Maybe you'll surprise yourself and if she does come back one day YOU won't want to reconcile anymore.

I feel really terrible for you, Cory. I can only imagine having to be put through the pain you've been dealing with and barely any time to even fully process things. It really is terrible and I wish you the best of luck and can only suggest that you continue to take advantage of the support of this forum and possibly try and find some kind of group support in the real world, too. You will be okay, no matter how much it will feel like you won't sometimes.