Mmelisa thanks for chiming in on my thread. Just read through hope that I can be helpful in return. I myself am a decade sober at this point and an active Al Anon member also. Just because he isnt a daily drinker does not mean that he isnt powerless over alcohol. And even if he gets sober he isnt emotionally sober which is even more important. You need to pull away yourself (and for yourself) and hope that he hits some sort of bottom to want to change. read Codependent no more if you havent already Be strong!
Thank you Ste7e! It seems the consensus is that our relationship won't work unless he gets sober. He always says the only person with the problem, is me. He doesn't have a problem with his drinking. :-) If you don't mind me asking, what was your rock bottom?
I'm working on myself and know I have things that I need to fix. I am going to try to figure out why I stayed for so long without someone who obviously wasn't good for me.
He said he was going to get our S yesterday and I haven't heard from him. Oh well, his loss. I continued with our plans for the day as I wasn't sure he would actually get him anyways. I've kept myself busy today doing projects around the house that I've been wanting to do. I realized now that for the past several years I've been so focused on our relationship and fixing it that I forgot about the things I enjoy. I love working and doing small things. The kids are also getting used to him not being around.
