WAW - managing limbo period

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Thanks AS. I don't mean to push at all tbh, so if you think I come across that way I will work on stepping back more. GAL, 180, detach - got it. I can do all that, but don't I need to strike a balance somehow so as to be also looking like I'm happy to work on the relationship too? I'm being perfectly friendly, not emotional, polite, helpful etc - certainly not needy, pushy or anything like that. We are living together, the kids are around all the time so it would just look odd if I was aloof, went out all the time, and basically fully 'detached', if you know what I mean.

I guess you'll say I'm detaching per DB not going dark/NC, and there's a difference. But I'm still learning how to do that in my context.

I will certainly go on vacation next week and invest my time in the kids. There'll be no pursuing or pushing my W from me. Still not sure how to deal with sharing the same bedroom after all this time, but we'll both get through it I guess.

And I'll try to stop the R talks if possible. Don't want to be rude though. If she initiates I'll listen, but my instinct says, she's tired of them too, and probably won't initiate for a while now she's "made her decision"..

Thanks again.