Before saphubby gets a chance to respond with "but she would never.....", I just got to say you are such a laugh when you give advice because of the insights it gives us into the way you (and possibly other HD women) think.
If my hands start to move up her inner thigh, she locks her knees together so my hand can't even get near her erogenous zones...even sometimes when we are in the midst of having sex. Analyzing this behavior through Passionate Marraige by Schnarch, this her behavior has to do with the way she lives her life...get to close and I shut you off. I will say that I've taken Schnarchs advice and have no longer taken it personally because it's simply "her problem". In the past I would adjust my LM to accommodate her and make her happy (so I could feel good about myself) which in itself is a reflection of the way I live my life...which is also the wrong way because I'm seeking to please in order to receive validation (in this case, my love making skills etc).
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-Steven Wright
