Arsh - thanks so much for taking the time to read through my sitch. It really is appreciated, especially when you have so much going on with yours. I have just spent the afternoon reading your thread(s) from beginning to end, and I wish you strength to get through it. I do have some views and will post on your thread shortly.
On mine, I think you (and my instinct) are right. I think the decision by W made is because she can't face the alternative, not because she actually wants to try to make things work with me, or can see a chance of her feelings changing.
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I feel the restlessness in your posts but be patient
I suppose I am somewhat restless, or at least I have my moments, but generally speaking, the last few days, as I thought we were heading towards D and telling the kids, a calm acceptance did descend which made detaching easier. I think this surprise decision of hers has brought back that chink of hope that I had been trying to quell for so long, and it's the hope that gets you. I have to tell myself to go with it for now, but keep my expectations very low. We have a long way to go.
For the MBR, yes, I have concluded this is far too soon to have her back. And I think she has too. We just did our normal thing last night - went separate ways without a word when the kids weren't looking. It will definitely be odd next week on vacation - like strangers sharing a bed. I would really be interested in the female perspective on how to handle that if you get chance to respond.
Anyway, thanks again, and will update soon.
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
