Meanwhile 12 Years Later

[Dawn70]

Now... I really feel,I need to be fully clear here - if nothing else in fairness to WG. I NEVER said 10 beers in 6 hours. Where did that even come from? She got to my house at about 11:00 AM and we left right away for the ballpark. We went to bed after midnight. So we are talking over 12 hours here - more than double what everyone else is thinking. I also did not count. That might be weird on my part to count her drinks. So it might have been 8 in 12 hours. Of course it could have been 12 for all I know??? I'm just not that sure. I'm guessing at 10 beers in 12 hours. She also said she cannot do this with IPA and other "real" beers, which is why i did not see this before when she out drank me by 2 or 3 to 1. The thing is, EVERYONE out drinks me by at least 2:1. EVERYONE - unless they don't drink - which is me 80% of the time. She had 3 or 4 from about 2-7ish on Monday. I had nothing.

Don,
I can't speak for anyone but myself here but I ASSUMED 10 beers in roughly 6 hours based on your original post where you said she downed maybe 10 beers after the game and into the evening. Now granted, that wasn't a specific time frame, but in my mind, based on what you posted, she started drinking her beers around 4:00 or 5:00 (after the game was over) and continued to the end of the evening which again IN MY MIND (because I'm an old lady who values her sleep time and I'm NOT a night owl) was somewhere around 11:00, so in my mind, based on your post, that equated to around 6 or 7 hours of drinking time. Totally my own math, based on your post, but neither supported nor proven by actual factual numbers you posted, so you can (hopefully) see where there might be some confusion. Yes, you plainly stated she arrived earlier in the day, but you also plainly stated in the original post the drinking of the beers started AFTER the game, so maybe that is where folks are getting their time frame from.

My eyes are wide open to it all. Still, it's only been a month. She's got plans for the next week nearly. More than anything I want to make sure I don't lead her on. I may have been dong that more than I've realized. I do not at all want to hurt her. She constantly says we are just hanging out - not even dating. Just two consenting adults, I'm way outside her normal box, she trusted me enough to end her 8 months of no sex, etc. which if is all true, I'm very good with. I even thought/think I could be her rebound from the guy she's know for near 15 years and she did really love. I just wonder if she's being honest about her feelings for me. There is more to play out. As I've been saying... To be continued.

Oh Don, Don, Don...........absolutely your eyes should be open to whatever red flags you see. I would never suggest otherwise. But, if I have learned anything from these boards, it is that sometimes red flags are seen where there are none and sometimes no red flags are seen when there are HUGE ones waving. You say you don't want to lead her on, you aren't compatible, it is just about having fun (all paraphrasing what you have said, mind you....not directly quoting you), so why not just let it be and have fun? You seem to have made it clear what your intentions are and she seems to have fairly clear intentions as well since she doesn't even want to call what you are doing "dating", so why not just go with the flow? Who cares if you are way outside of her norm? Go with it! There must be something about you she likes or she wouldn't keep coming back. And, there is something about her that keeps you going back. I guess my point here is, unless her drinking makes you extremely uncomfortable, why let that one difference be the end of something you are both, seemingly, enjoying?

I read with interest all the drinking comments. I'm not a huge drinker. And, I have stated plainly before, I'm a big girl. Some on here have seen pictures and can verify that. So, 10 beers in 6 hours would have me pretty lit. I'm not a Busch Light girl...Coors Light is my drink of choice...but almost all domestic beers have an alcohol content somewhere around 5% (unless you buy that crappy Oklahoma made beer which is around 3%....no offense to any Okies on the board). When Sparky and I went with friends to see Def Leppard, I drank one mixed drink and had a shot of whiskey (which was poured a little heavy handed so it was really almost 2 shots, but still....a mixed drink and a shot) and I was feeling a little buzz, so I really can't put a lot away, despite my size. I've always been a fairly light-weight drinker. You say you are not a big drinker either and that is fine. She seems to have a good tolerance, based on what you said, so maybe that is something that she's enjoyed throughout her life. If it is a deal breaker that she does drink more heavily, then let her know. You say you don't want to lead her on, so if the drinking is something you can't accept then tell her. It is what it is.