I agree with Arshi, she's not ready. And I think you are pushing too hard. You should refrain from all these R talks, even if W is initiating them. Read Steve's advice again:
"My advice 40 is to GAL like a madman. Keep on 180ing on things that got you here. Detach. Detach. Detach. (In my sitch things didn't get better until I let her go.) Go on the vacation and be lovingly detached from her. Bury yourself into your kids."
