She then corrects herself and says it could be our house. I don't know how to take this. I don't remember the exact words or order of the conversation, but at one point her response to me saying none of this makes any sense if we aren't together was "no matter what happens, you won't be on your own, so stop stressing." She then continued on, describing our future house and cars and the camping trips we would take with the dogs. She was deliberately using words like "us" and "ours" even after I corrected her that I would not be involved if we are separating. After the third time she told me to "stop stressing",
It's a little strange to me that she is the only one that gets to make decisions like this. It sounds like you are putting the decision of whether or not to separate completely in her court. I think thats why you feel so powerless. You say you know you can only control you, but it sounds like you are giving that power to her....
Originally Posted by 44tries
On a side note, I get the idea that she might be open to working on the MR if I proposed something specific. So if you guys do think I should force an R talk and demand she verbally recommit right now, I think it would be most effective if I had a plan of action that was more tangible than just "working on our MR". Will have to think more on this.
I think that plan starts with seeing a professional to navigate through a confusing time. I ouldnt take that on as your responsibility to identify and plan.
