Thanks again for the ideas and discussion;

I have felt better in the last few days being at work and keeping busy; I don't hear from her and going into the shadows of darkness is starting to make me feel slightly better;

My wife is emotionally gone and I doubt she will ever return; her behaviour seems to illustrate that she regards me as the enemy and the source of her unhappiness; if it wasn't for me, she would be happy ?!?

Its truly tragic that someone you have spent your life with can't communicate, but life goes on.

I feel for our children and the destruction is she about to impose on them in her quest for happiness; I can only be the greatest Dad I can be.

Moving forward, I am the lighthouse, standing tall as a beacon for her to maybe one day return, until I switch the light off.
:-)