I started Al-anon about a year ago. My problem is that I also see the good in him. He doesnt drink everyday but the binges he does quarterly are not fun. I had a hard time figuring out whether he was actually an alcoholic or not, because he doesnt drink every day or even every month.
Ummm.....you have been in Alanon for a year and you still are not sure he has a drinking problem just because he's a binge drinker and not a daily drinker? You need to pay more attention in meetings! He's an alcoholic!
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I guess now I just wonder if I had changed things about myself then if it would have changed things in him,
Ummm....again, hasn't this come up in your meetings? That you didn't break him and you can't fix him? What exactly is it he thinks you need to change about yourself? (Not that we don't all have things we could work on in ourselves - none of us are perfect - but what about you was so terrible that it made him drink and be verbally abusive? Come on! It's on him.)
