Sent W a text telling her when the game was over and that we would be at the park afterwards if she wanted to come by. We shall see what happens...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
My guess, no show. She wanted to go to your house.
And we have a winner!....
W just sent a text saying "I got called into my other job. (sad face emoji) I don't think I work tomorrow. Can I come by if I don't?"...
First, she doesn't have an "other job" as far as I know...
Second, How do you not know if you work tomorrow? Really?...
D9 has a softball game tomorrow night. I am going to send her a text here in a bit informing her of the game and what time it is and tell her she is more than welcome to come since she might have the night off. After the game I was planning on taking thekids out for pizza and then ice cream to celebrate her last game. I'm sure none of that will fit in her schedule either...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
mtb - sorry to say this but in your case it rings so true- Never believe what a WAS says and only half of what they do. I also think it is a great idea to meet her up in public places so that you have witness around should she claim any foul activity. You are doing a great job! Stay positive!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
As WWs go yours is by far the most wayward. Does she ever realize how many times she doesn't show up or texts back saying she can't make it? I'd think at some point it would embarrass her.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve, it should embarrass her, but it obviously does not. I honestly think she suffers from a personality disorder. She does not have the capacity to realize she is doing it, let alone be embarrassed by it. She has been to see an IC on several different instances in the past. She was able to understand that she might have a problem, but after going to see them once or twice she would quit going. She said she did not want to go anymore because they wanted to talk about things she did not want to talk about. Which imo were the issues that needed to be addressed, but things just got too real for her..
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
I guarantee its because you weren't going to be at your house. She will play nice today, act interested, until you tell her you aren't planning on meeting at home again. She will bail again.
I wouldnt be surprised if she tried to get in the house again sometime when your'e not home. my Wife used to do that Oct-Jan when i was still in our old house, there were times i specifically pulled my car in the garage, and stayed in bed, and she came home and acted all surprised and concerned that i was "home sick" then she would make up some reason why she was there (this was before i took her keys), and make a hasty exit.
Im surprised i never met OM this way...
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Steve, it should embarrass her, but it obviously does not. I honestly think she suffers from a personality disorder. She does not have the capacity to realize she is doing it, let alone be embarrassed by it. She has been to see an IC on several different instances in the past. She was able to understand that she might have a problem, but after going to see them once or twice she would quit going. She said she did not want to go anymore because they wanted to talk about things she did not want to talk about. Which imo were the issues that needed to be addressed, but things just got too real for her..
Sooooo, I'll go to counseling unless they want to, I don't know, actually counsel me. Nice.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
MTB, at least you got her to go at one point. It sounds like she knows full well that she has skeletons to unearth and would rather play ostrich.
The closest i got to WIFE going to IC was "YOURE the one that needs help, There's NOTHING wrong with ME, I wouldn't need to waste my time or money to be told im fine, but you need help for sure."
Holy Hypocrisy Batman!
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
My mom just informed me that there is a For rent sign in front of Ws place. I am assuming CEFS cut off her assistance and she can no longer afford it. Wondering if that has any thing to do with her sudden interest in coming over...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
