My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 3

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OK now she feels like she doesn't want to try and that she is just a mess.

She said she is so confused. That she is everything right now and feels like she is in a tornado. She doesn't know where to go, what to do, which way to turn. Talking about our problems was fine, but she was reminded of our old R and how she didn't like it. She can't force herself.

This lasted about 3 hours. She said something reminded her of our old relationship when we were looking at condos. Maybe I can be with you but I can't right now.

WTF was I thinking taking her to Florida with me...I brought up how she wanted to leave right then and there (when we were talking earlier) and said how she was doing that to "escape her tornado". I asked if that would actually help and she didn't know but that it sounded good at the time.

She wanted to make a choice and not think about it anymore. But that's what she did today.

Guess it's time to back off the pursuit and go back to LRT and validating her feelings.