Advice on my Scenario Pt. 18 - Nunquam Iterum

[Bewas]

Ehhhh.

A few attachment feelings have been trying to bubble up today.

I am happy with how much better I am at neutralizing them quickly, but Ill be much happier when they don't happen at all.

I think subconsciously, not having responded to her is bothering me, it goes against what my addicted mind wants. To talk to her, but i proved myself the other day that talking to her is only an invite for pain and frustration, so a big fat NO on that one.

It's interesting you say that it subconsciously bothers you to not respond to her. I'm at this point kind of having the opposite feeling...I actually feel better letting my W's texts simmer for awhile or just not responding at all at times. Funny thing is, she usually responds very promptly to me. lol. I think my W knows at this point though that I'm unwilling to help her with anything that isn't an emergency in regards to our S so she doesn't bother as much as before.

For what it's worth, I'd say you are definitely better off not responding or at least letting her squirm for awhile if you feel you absolutely must respond. Especially if it's not important.